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[higure]

This made me smile today. Ryo and Massu being totally cute. And Massu is hot. Just saying.



And Ryo never stop being dork. How is this sexy again? LOL.

In other fandom news, I have read an awesome Arsenal/Ace fic yesterday (*__* I mean that was the whole point of 8uppers, right?) and the got a lesson on how to write kissing scenes, courtesy of Ryo/Ohkura. I can´t wait to see the new KAT-TUN PV, omg why is there still so much time left and Eighto concert pictures are so hilarious even by their very high standards!

I also miss “my fandom.” I lived a lot on short subbed clips of whichever of the groups I follow, but lately no one (to my knowledge) subs KAT-TUN related stuff at all, NEWS are scarce and none of the Arashi subbing groups I follow sub their variety really (and I gave up trying to get into the million new ones). This was how I enjoyed my fandom the most; I hardly ever have time to catch up on scans and translations and this way my gateway. I miss it so much ;__;

One more fandom related thing, me and Rin are conducting an experiment of some sort (or just looking for a reason to write together again), so there is a poll on my writing community. If you wanted to fill it out and for whatever reason did not do so just yet. Here is your chance ->->-> <-<-<-! Yes we call stuff we write epic.

In real life news, I moved, gained a flatmate and this Monday I started working. The normal at least 8 hours (plus 30 min. lunch break) a day, grown up, regular job. It is too soon to tell how much I will like it. My colleagues are all young, tons of them I went to school with and I am doing all kinds of (very much not law related) stuff. I share an office with one guy and it is huge and pretty (perks of coming in after someone who was there the longest), so that is all kind of nice. It is your typical office job. On the other hand, there is always some training session, work travel (connected with various organizations we are member of) to go to, or some visit coming to the court. So basically I already know that I will work-work only two full weeks out of those that are left until Christmas; in the rest of them, there is always at least a day (or half) that something else is going down. Which is nice, if only a bit vexing at the moment, because I do have work to do while I am there, so I need to find out how to work it all together. We will see. There are also some pretty quirky people navigating around that institution, so I am definitely not bored at the moment. More like, I am still very much overwhelmed. I am yet to do anything but work on my work days, so I plan on working on that in the near future.

I have my graduation ceremony this Monday, so, rofl, I am off work (I am glad they are letting me go) and my family is coming. Oh joy. My mother argued over the phone with me today because she said I MUST get myself a PhD. degree (because that is so easy to do, you know, you have to come up with dissertation project, get accepted, then study for four years in a program that requires you to publish and teach on regular bases among other things), and I told her I don’t have to and still have time to decide whether I want to. I was called arrogant. Seriously nothing changed (but the fact that I now pay for these vexing conversations since they take place over the phone).

Before I wish you good rest of the weekend, I have one more thing. I realize this journal, while it is still fandom based, is more and more my personal, real life related place. I have no clue how many of you are interested in that, and I know my fandom related posts are sucky and scarce lately. I’m always behind, I leave most of my flailing unsaid because I get to catch up on singles, videos and funny stuff happening way too late when all of you have moved on. I might sound annoying and boring for all I know.

So this is me telling you that if you just skip over my post whenever they appear on your f-list, or if they are more annoying or vexing even than anything, you have every right to defriend me.

I am sure you don’t have to be told, but some people still kind of try to be considerate or need that little push. So this is me giving you a reason.
Defriending amnesty they call it?
Here it is. No hurt feelings, no bitterness. I prefer honesty.

For those who are staying . . . I hope I can still be a good friend some way or another. If you want to know what I am up to everyday, go check out my photo journal over at sanslunettes. ♥

Comments

[tokeruyouna.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, but I just had to laugh at those few paragraphs towards the end there.

[sashjun.livejournal.com]

my mom, or the defriending thing? well it is like a disclaimer, so that I don´t feel sorry for my flist. they should know what they´ll be getting. Is it silly?

[tokeruyouna.livejournal.com]

The defriending. I don't think it is silly, though I was a little surprised you actually came out and said that much as opposed to just telling people what they are getting into with a possible mention of "defriend if your not interested" in passing.

But I was laughing because I was kind of thinking that it would be really sad if you had no hurt feelings or bitterness if I defriended you (and wondering if that was actually true), especially since I was thinking I was already missing you (somehow, bets are one whether it is because I am still sick or because you are just that awesome).

♥ XD

[sashjun.livejournal.com]

Ah well, I just wanted to clarify a few things I guess. It was also me kind of feeling the pressure of mentioning certain things, of somehow navigating my posts and I did not like it. This is my corner after all.

I would be sad that I lost you as a friend, but no hurt feelings refers to that I would not be like mad or butthurt over the fact you decided to do it. Like I would understand the motives, I guess. It really is better to not be friends than to pretend. I really do think that. But I would be sad I haven´t been able to keep an awesome friend.

missing me, as my LJ post? or in general? ♥ I will try, I think things will get better when I manage to settle my mind a bit. But ♥ You know where to find me.

[tokeruyouna.livejournal.com]

Well yes, I agree it would be better to just not be friends in that case, and this is probably more for people you don't really interact with much. So you are just taking this too seriously because I would be sad if you defriended me right now and if I was in your position, I don't know. It was just funny.

No, as in, I have not talked to you since yesterday and somehow that is making me miss you. Nothing to do with your posting habits. Again, I blame it on the being sick.

[zenfu.livejournal.com]

Your job - while potentially vexing - sounds really interesting. If nothing else, you're not likely to get bored any time soon. XD

[sashjun.livejournal.com]

Yup it seems like that will be one big upside of it all. :D Let´s hope.

[creamy-amande.livejournal.com]

Fuwah, I'm starting to think your mother is a bit strict on you and even though she might want you to get full degree to have more options for the future, she sjould let loose a little bit...reminds me of how she told you to have your eyes lasered...gambatte, Alex

[sashjun.livejournal.com]

i kind of do have a full degree right now. PhD is a higher standard. My mom is just . . . in need of pushing me I guess. I will see where it gets me. Will do! ♥

[creamy-amande.livejournal.com]

Yeah sorry, I get confused with all these diplomas, since I have none, my bad

one mor time, gambatte!

[beltenebra.livejournal.com]

I can't believe your mother calls making a decision not to dedicate a ton of money and four years of your life to a PhD program when you are still unsure of what you want to spend your life doing arrogrant. Earth-people would call that damn good common sense.

But yay for a nice office? ♥ And you are totally right, those Ryo and Massu pictures are Adorable.

[sashjun.livejournal.com]

Well education here, PhD including, is for free. That will very likely change soon, so if I apply I might end up paying part of it, but not just yet. And most of the departments (but the one I would most likely want to apply to) offer external version of PhD program so if I choose one that has it (and I would not do it any other way frankly, no way I would stop working) I would continue with my job. So what I would be dedicating to it would be my own free time. Like all of it. And thus possibly my personal life. But I do, roughly, know what I want to do in my life, enough for a lawyer at my stage anyway, in this profession you don´t usually like set your eyes on one particular thing and then do it all life long. So PhD in something close to the fields of law I like, and mostly want to do, would be fine. It´s more the question of time, possible clashes with work, the fact that knowing what you approximately want to do does not give you an idea for dissertation project and the fact, that frankly, I am not that big on article writing and being all "academic", I´m more practical. I actually thing not everyone is cut out to be PhD. but yeah . . . not valid arguments. It´s a hunt for letters before and after the name.

Yay! it is.

[naoryuu.livejournal.com]

I can't really call myself a friend, but I am not using this chance you're giving me. I want to keep your journal friended, though I might not read all of it.