JE Anti-friending meme [READ THE INSTRUCTIONS!]

[higure]

THE JE ANTI-FRIENDING MEME!!!
{Why do you not want to be my friend?}

this is a reaction to people wondering why no one/certain people do not want to friend them on a friending meme
This is a social experiment as much as it is a meme.
This is NOT a hate meme!

Rules:
Fill out the form at the end of this entry like you would fill it out on a friending meme
Let people tell you anonymously why they don’t want to be friends with you based on this filled out form

I do not want any personal hate or bashing, but there may be many other interesting reasons:
- maybe you don’t friend people who like Tegoshi (despite having many other things in common otherwise) because Tegoshi in big doses makes you dizzy
- maybe you want your friends list balanced, so you are friending only people who have wide range of interests
- maybe the .gif they posted seemed too forced, like they are trying too much
- it is okay that someone sounds e.g. intimidating based on the filled out form or that you want someone closer to your age
- it is not okay saying you heard someone is a bitch and they should get lost

This meme is about finding out what turns people off friending other specific people based on the impression created by a friending meme post

If it turns into personal hate and bashing, I will have no qualms to delete this entry and conclude internet is not a place for such an experiment.

But I hope you all would try to have an open mind and create as friendly of an atmosphere as possible for an anti-friending meme.

Here is the form to fill in:
<b>Name:</b> <b>Age:</b> <b>Twitter:</b> <b>Tumblr:</b> <b>Favorite groups:</b> <b>Favourite pairings:</b> <b>Other fandoms:</b> <b>Friending requirements, if any:</b> <b>Obligatory .gif field:</b>
(the form is identical as the one for the latest friending meme, and the idea of this was not really mine either, I am not that brilliant.)

Play nice, if you think this is a good idea, help me spread the word!

edit: the hate meme for those who got lost ;D is now here

Comments

[rek121.livejournal.com]

As long as it's your journal and not bashing on mine it's not a problem, I do have a friend that like to make hate posts on Jin sometimes, but we respect each other's opinions and as I won't write anything to offend her on her journal and she wouldn't do so on mine =)

I appreciate it that your comment wasn't mean and you just stated your opinion anon, some anons do like to say cruel things just because you disagree on something and when no one knows who you are it's easy to hurt other ♥

[(Anonymous)]

If you're okay I'm doing so, I believe with what you say. But one thing I'm still afraid of. Sometimes some of your f-lists have a sudden curiosity checking your friends in your f-lists and when they see my post, they will just burn in rage and rant on my post. Well ... it happened to one of my friends. That's what I don't like and I don't wanna take a risk for doing so. Some of KAT-TUN/Jin only fans are a bit cruel when another people doesn't have same preference and opinion like them about their idols. I just want my journal keep in its peaceful atmosphere.

Besides, I currently have this lazy feeling in posting or commenting though xD and also I bet you had seen me in public Jin hate post (?)

Oh wow. Thank you ♥ I always want to be a mean person but ended up failed LOL So here I am, a fan who used to be active in KAT-TUN fandom but now she's just a silent reader because she wants to be in peaceful life here in LJ. I have no strong heart to be in that fandom.

[rek121.livejournal.com]

Really? :O I never heard about incidents like that. I don't understand how that can happen if you lock those posts so only your friends could see... =/
I know that fans can be cruel, the KAT-TUN/Jin fandom is pretty problematic. Some Jin's fans and 5nin fans can say some really harsh things and just like you I wouldn't like to be the one receiving their hatred.
I'm not one of those fans that see their idols like gods or whatever, I know they all got flaws and as long as you don't use your journal for 24 hours of hatred on anyone I really don't mind. Let's say that if I would see a anti-Yoko fan in the K8 fandom laugh at the fact that his mother died I will feel like hitting her/him and probably defriend her/him. And it doesn't matter if it's someone I like or hate.

LOL, I wouldn't know if I did, would I? =P

Haha, same here. I thought about saying some cruel stuff on a hate memes before, but I thought better of it. I'm not saint, but I wouldn't like to be the one reading all the hatred.
As long as it's harmless hate it okay, I really don't like the cases in which people need to shut down their users and disappear. Usually I find the JE fandom pretty welcoming, I haven't read the current hate meme yet but I remember that the last one (or the one from before, can't really remember) was more like a love meme. People bitching around of course but it was quit lovely. Even Arama was worse than that XD

[(Anonymous)]

And one more thing, but it's just a suggestion from me. When I took a peek onto your journal, I saw you had made intro post? May I know whether you purposely/not wrote it as "into post"? If you meant "introduction post", maybe you should change that to "intro post".

Sometimes, some people wouldn't want someone who can't write English properly to be their friend. Don't take it personally okay? But there are some people who judge you by how good your grammar is.

Anyway, good luck for finding friends. I hope you'll find a good people ;)

[rek121.livejournal.com]

Oh, I didn't noticed! Changed it now, thank you ^^"

I know that, it can't be helped, I'm trying but I'm still not a native. For fics and comics I have a beta but I can't let her beta all my journal of course. I don't take offense don't worry =)

Thank you, you too anon-san <3